Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.

Love that we cannot have is the one that
Lasts the longest,
Hurts the deepest,
And feels the strongest.
— Unknown.

Do you echo the same sentiment?  Do you still wonder why?  I still do…

Today, I was so tempted to use the line “be grateful that it happened despite the hurts…” and the oft-repeated, “it is better to have loved and lost…” to console a weeping friend. But, I restrained myself.

When one NEEDS to let go of the person she wants to spend the rest of her life with, I cannot even imagine using the words “don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”  I will simply let her cry, weep if need be.  For at that very moment, it would be impossible to reconcile love with reason.  If my own heart breaks as I watch her pain, she will know through my eyes that I know what she’s going through.  That I too had been there.

I believe that when no words may be said, it is best to let silence speak.

My dear Arianne, I hope you understood my silence.  There was not much I could say because I too do not understand why two people who love each other best do not always end up growing old together.  Could it be the cruelty of fate? You resolved to work hard at falling out of love… I wonder if your heart meant that.

Years of trying to fall out of love taught me many things about how pure and beautiful love can be.  It taught me that loving does not mean owning.  That true love is not always a smooth journey.  It taught me that it is possible for two people to love each other deeply even if the only thing that binds them are the beautiful memories kept treasured in their hearts.  That letting go is one way of saying I love you.

 

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,                                           

while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

                                                       – Lao Tzu